Weddings can be all consuming – the venue, the gowns and tuxes, the parties, the invitations, the registry, the food, and on and on. There is so much to consider and so many decisions to make. It can be a very stressful time! Love yourself through the process. Relax and make these weeks and months of planning enjoyable. Give yourself permission to let go of energy drainers. And keep yourself focused on what’s important.
I’ve seen couples get completely consumed by the process of planning and neglect what it’s all about – the act of getting married. Think about it. You’ve found your person! You have each decided to pledge your life to the other. That is amazing. That is what it’s all about. And now you will stand before your friends and family and commit everything to each other. Keep yourself focused on that. Don’t let the image of the day – how the photos will look, what people expect or want, what they will say, etc. – become more important than the day itself. What you will be doing as you face each other and pledge to be life partners is important. Those moments matter. And they will go by in a flash if you aren’t completely present.
So give it some focused attention! How do you want to feel at the altar when you face your beloved? What do you want to say? What readings, songs or rituals uniquely represent you as a couple? What do you want to remember? When all is said and done, how you feel during your ceremony transcends everything, including what you are wearing or how you will party later on. You can make that time when you cross the threshold into married life together the most meaningful moments in your lives. And that kind of meaning is stored in your heart forever.